Most common problems experienced by people with Borderline

Yes we all know about this. People with a disorder all have some issues so the same goes for people who have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), but what are the most general problems? In this blog I have listed the nineteen most common problems BPD patients experience. This list right there, just gave me the idea to write a whole series of blog posts on this.

So what is the plan you ask? Every day I will be writing one blog post about one of the general problems. I will write and publish them in the order indicated in this blog. So basically you can see this blog as an introductory blog about the most common problems of people having BPD. Without further delay, below you will find the most common problems, people with Borderline are experiencing.

1. Reliving the past
2. Emotional reaction
3. Relying on others
4. Separation Fear
5. Scared of the future
6. Making decisions
7. Communication problems
8. The need of affection of parents or partners
9. The constant need of confirmation
10. Suicidal thoughts 
11. Believe in your therapist
12. Crying for change
13. Self acceptance is hard
14. Terrible self destructive thoughts
15. Self harm does not change anything
16. Wanting to escape from situations
17. Bordies hold on to someone to much
18. The attached meaning in the mind 
19. This and then that

Naming problems someone experiences is always a challenge. You have to be open to yourself and others to admit you have some problems. Then it is not just about you to admit having some problems, but others have to do the same. Only by doing this, people can find recognition and a list of general problems such as this list can be made. Anyway, I hope you will find this list useful. Did I miss any general problems according to you?

Just let me know by leaving a comment on this blog and I will add it and also dedicate a separate blog post to it.

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Until next time.

Forest

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a fight, what can you do?

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a fight, what can you do?

A patient with Borderline Personality Disorder has in mostly all cases a huge lack of self esteem. This is a fact that we have seen in many studies. I have been researching the importance of self esteem in Borderline Personality Disorder. How it would affect a patient if he or she gets a better self esteem and what the effect would be. How can you change your mind set about your self esteem?

How can you affect your life by thinking different about yourself? Does it fade the Borderline Personality Disorder or will only an aspect get better? Why does a person have a lack of self esteem and why do people with Borderline especially have a lack of self esteem?

Borderline is the border, of your own limits

A person with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) has a lower border. That is why the disorder is called Borderline. Have you ever thought why they chose this name specifically? It is because people with BPD have almost no border whom you can cross. The person does not know his own border. This comes from past experiences, where they have been hurt or have been told stuff that they have learned to believe. 

Like bullies telling them ''You are stupid'' they will still re-live. The other important aspect is that people with borderline have an error in the developing of their own identity. The reason behind this is that people having Borderline are having no limits. As you can see, Borderline patients are very creative, but not just on one aspect. Which is a positive trait.
With making decisions, with relying on people, with limits, they cannot see their limits themselves.

So they will go across their border, and this causes a lot of trouble. They cannot see the consequences of particular situations, they say stuff and afterwards they do not know it was not right. People with borderline can come in a state of mind of getting depressed, and they only believe one truth. A person with Borderline Personality Disorder cannot place two realities next to each other at the same time. 

If it is black, it is black, if it is white it is white. Probably when you, as a parent or a partner get mad at them or say something negative, they will only believe that part on that particular moment. They can only deal with the situation when the white (good) parts come back to the situation. People with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) cannot deal with negative situations very well.

They cannot see the grey area. The best way to deal with a situation as a patient with BPD, is to learn to cope with the fact that a situation is negative. Try to think of situations where your loved one was in a nice mood with you, and you should still see the grey area.
When your escalating, try to think back of situations where you were in a good state of mind. Try to mentally improve the way you think, to not take drastic actions, like you do now.

Try to believe that situations even in crisis, will get better, if you just hang on the grey area in between. It might look awful for you in your mind in crises, because you cannot see the whole picture.You think you are lost in the forest, you just do not know what to think so do not force it. Try to learn to think more practical. That is a hard part because when a person having BPD is escalating, it is basically a crashing mind with impulsive behavior to not think about confronting topics.

Try to learn that the confrontation is a tool to learn how to act differently. We are still researching to help you take these steps. This is just a brief blog to make you understand why it is so hard for a borderline patient, but we will definitely help you on this blog. 

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Have a wonderful relaxing day. Until next time.

Forest.

Welcome to Living With Borderline...

Welcome

Welcome to my blog about learning how to live with borderline. I will discuss the most important questions that people have in regards to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Each of those questions I will answer in one or several posts, whatever is necessary to guarantee a nice overview for you, the reader. My way of answering a question will be by explaining you what happens step by step.

I also describe techniques how to interact with someone who has BPD. I give you more insight when it comes to why BPD is the way it is. How can you make Borderline more bearable and maybe someday even become an ex-Borderline patient? How can you react less strongly in a situation? What do you need to do exactly when you want to work on this kind of problems? Personally I find it really fulfilling to help others.  

 I am very interested in researching disorders and how they work the way they work in the brain and how you can do something with this in a positive way. I will describe many situations where you can learn to cope with different kinds of inter-personal behaviors. This way you can learn to trick the trigger to not result into an escalation.  I started this blog because I love to help others out, you can always leave a comment on my blog if you have any suggestions what I should blog about.

Also, I will discuss coping methods to endure emotional setbacks and I will show you videos where I discuss the most common traits of Borderline Personality Disorder. I will let you know what is the cause of Borderline Personality Disorder and how it affects daily life. I hope you will enjoy reading my blogs and the information in it will help you out when you read this carefully and be persistent.

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Love,

Forest