Hi everyone, welcome to the second blog about people with Borderline and
why they ask for attention so much. My previous blog was more about the theory
behind this fact. You can read it here.
This blog provides real life stories to make you see what way works for
someone with Borderline and what way does not. Here we go.
Story 1:
Wrong way of wanting to solve the problem
This story is told by a girl named Natasha and her mother.
Natasha: mom, I cannot do it
anymore! My life is over! I am devastated by all of the concerns and I cannot
sleep *cries*
Her mom: Natasha, go upstairs
now, I want you to go to sleep right now, it is late.
Natasha: But mom, I need you! Don’t
you see that?!
Her mom: Yes I can see that, but
you have to go to sleep now, I also need rest!
Natasha: *swallows* But I cannot
sleep. I am sad, I am so scared! Please help me!
Her mom: I want you to stop this
right now, that miserable behavior of yours! Stop it, it is enough! Upstairs,
now!
Natasha: *screams everything all
together* or *takes an over dose* or *goes cutting herself*
Story 2:
Good way of wanting to solve the problem
This story is told by a girl named Natasha and her mother.
Natasha: mom, I cannot do it anymore! My life is over!
I am devastated by all of the concerns and I cannot sleep *cries*
Her mom: Natasha, girl, I know that there is a lot
going on inside your head right now. We can talk about this on a different time
so you can share, but at this moment it is really late. I would appreciate it
when you would go to sleep right now. I believe that you can do it and so should you.
Natasha: Mom that is so sweet of you! You really
understand how I feel! Will it ever be okay again?
Her mom: Yes, as long as you believe in it, I believe
in you. Sometimes I can see you struggling and this makes me feel tired too.
Let’s go to sleep now and have sweet dreams about better times even when it is
not like that right now. At least you can sleep just fine. Let’s not argue,
because that is what you are afraid of, right? I will make sure of it.
Natasha: Oh, that is great! You totally get me! I will
go to sleep mom, I am eternally grateful.
Her mom: Good night dear, you sleep now okay?
Natasha: You bet I will mom.
Explanation
of story 1
This story makes you see that the mother’s response to the things her
daughter says is not effective. A part of this has to do with the fact that she
is totally worn out. Even the slightest effort to talk to her daughter in a
calm way seems to be unsuccessful. This is the biggest mistakes families make
in regards to children that need attention, they really need it. The cause is
that they are so insecure about any single thing that is going on.
I know, acting effectively requires a lot of energy, but yet you as an
outsider get a lot of that energy back from the person having Borderline
Personality Disorder.
In my next blog I will perform an extensive analysis about what happens
exactly. Because of the length of this analysis I have decided to dedicate a
separate post to it. You can read it here.
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Until next time.
Forest
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